Wyllie’s birth story is difficult to read. Considering the fact that Andrew was born 1959, what are your reactions to how the doctor broke the news?
How about her reaction to seeing him for the first time?
“I waited anxiously for the nurse to bring him from the nursery. I had seen him only briefly, and then he was bundled up in blankets. Now with my dreams of a beautiful and perfect child cruelly shattered, I had mixed emotions when I looked at the tiny object in its hospital bassinet. It was ugly. In addition to the features that the doctor had described, the cheeks were plump with funny, full jowls covered in a kind of furry fuzz. But this strange thing was a baby- our baby. He breathed and squirmed. He made little gurgling noise and opened his mouth, searching for food. He was soft and warm to touch, and when I held him, carefully supporting his wobbly head, my nostrils were filled with the sweet perfume of baby lotion and talcum powder. How could we discard such a little creature? He was a human being. As a mother I felt an inescapable urge to protect and comfort him.” P. 22
Do you remember seeing your child for the first time? Did you have confused feelings from what the doctors had told you and what you felt for your child?
How do you feel about the parent’s decision to change the baby’s name?
Did you feel guilt similar to what Romy described? Did you look back over your pregnancy to try to find something “wrong” that you did to cause your child’s Down syndrome? Did you feel that God had punished you and / or did you feel “chosen” for a special reason?